readingfamilybedtime
Small things I notice at the bottom of the stairs
A few things learned from the ten minutes before a child falls asleep, which is the most important publishing deadline in the world.
Bedtime is the most important publishing deadline in the world. I have said this before and I will keep saying it until somebody puts it on a mug. Most of my working life is spent thinking about the ten minutes before a child falls asleep. Here are some things I have noticed from the bottom of the stairs, where a parent stands when the reading is being done by somebody else and there is nothing to do but listen.
The child always wants the book they had last night. Not a similar book. That book. The one with the torn corner and the page where the dog is. Newness is a thing adults value and children mostly tolerate.
They know when you skip a page. You think you are being clever, cutting three minutes off the bedtime, and a small flat voice says, you missed the bit with the boat. They have the whole thing memorised. You are not reading it to them. You are performing a text they already hold.
They read the pictures first, always. The words are the soundtrack. If the picture and the words disagree, even slightly, the picture wins, every time, and they will tell you so with some concern.
A book that does something beats a book that says something. Give a small child a flap to lift or a path to choose and they will forgive almost any weakness in the writing. They do not want to be told a story so much as to be let into one.
Repetition is not a fault. Adults get tired of the refrain by the third page. Children lean into it. The line that comes round again is the handrail they hold while the story does something frightening in the middle. Take it out to save time and you have taken out the safe part.
The best question comes after the light is off, never during. During the story they are quiet and watchful. It is in the dark, when they are meant to be settling, that a child asks whether the fox in the story was frightened, and means it with their whole chest, and you have half a second to decide whether to open that door or say we can talk about it tomorrow.
They will let you stop only when they are ready, and they are ready roughly one page after you think they are. The trick, which is not really a trick, is to keep going into the part where your own voice has gone soft and slow, because that softness is half the medicine. The other half is the dog, on the page with the torn corner, exactly where it was last night, and where it had better be again tomorrow.
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